Too much 'loyalty'

The saddest thing happened to Otterboy the other night.

He has this friend, I will call Trouble, that has been his great buddy for many years--beginning long before the divorce. Even before they moved to our hometown. Otterboy is always talking about him and he often spends the night when O is at his mom's house. Well, I have never met him and, since school break started this week, I asked if he'd like Trouble to spend the night at our house.

O was excited to call to see if he wasn't grounded (which apparently happens quite often, hence the name) and ask him to spend the night  sometime soon. When Otterboy came back into the living room lounge, he had the strangest, puzzled look on his face.

Upon gentle questioning, it was discovered that Trouble's mom had said 'yes' to the overnight, but when she found out it was at our house instead of him mom's, she said 'no.'

Isn't that the saddest thing ever?


Sandra said...

Wow. That wasn't very nice at all!

merinz said...

That is weird/sad/cruel!

Betsy Banks Adams said...

Oh how terrible. I'm so sorry. I'm sure that Otterboy was very disappointed. That's just crazy.


Connie said...

That is very sad, but as a mom with strict rules about who my kids go with and where, I can understand. How well do you know the boy's parents, how well do they know you? Perhaps an invite to his family to come to dinner - in case you do not know each other well - might smooth the way for future overnights? Good luck - for O's sake :(

betty-NZ said...

Thanks so much for all your comments.

Connie: I understand what you are saying because we are very wary parents, too, but she knew Hubby and the Ex for several years before they got divorced so I don't understand her actions at all.

Marja said...

I agree and I had all kind of kids over here and with the right supervision nothing will ever happen. Kids need the freedom to choose their friends

Anonymous said...

That's very sad.
His nickname says a lot.
His frequent groundings say a lot too.
Seems like his mother is teaching him to judge the world, not to celebrate it.